It all began in the Garden of Eden. God created Adam and Eve for each other: “Then God blessed them, and God said to them, be fruitful and multiply” (Genesis 1:28). The Bible says that we are to be joined together as husband and wife, bone of bone and flesh of flesh. God created sex and it was good!
Sex in marriage is a blessing. It is a way to truly share yourself and get to know one another. God’s desire for sex is that you give yourself to your husband, body, mind and soul. God created sex as a way for husbands and wives to become “one flesh”. It is a way for us to connect with each other like no other person can. When you and your husband are in the moment, there is a connection, a feeling, that no one else can experience but the two of you.
Sex is a gift given by God as a way to strengthen our marriages. God is not disappointed or surprised by our sexual desires. He wants us to feel passion and pleasure. However, it is more than just that. Sex is a way that husbands and wives can become more secure with each other. Wives, can you think of a time when you feel more safe than when you are lying in your bed completely wrapped in your husband’s arms? I can’t.
One of the greatest benefits of the marriage bed is the intimacy that it creates. Making love is the most intimate moment a husband and wife can experience. It is a way to completely share yourself with your husband. The total giving of our souls and bodies is a reminder that we were created specifically for each other. It is this exclusivity and intimacy that molds us into “one flesh” as God desires.
Of course there are times when sex and intimacy are difficult to attain. If this is the case for you, do not worry. You are not alone. It is important to remember and accept the fact that men and women were created different sexually. Men were created to be very visual and to desire sex more frequently. Knowing this, it is important that we as wives realize that our bodies and our sensuality is the greatest tool that God gave us to serve and bless our husbands. Whereas with us women, everything is tied to our emotions. We need to feel wanted and desired, and if those feelings are not there then we are not into it. Sex should be enjoyable. It should be something that we look forward to and something that we yearn for. When that connection is not there, the yearning and desire is lost.
Sex with our husbands should make us feel special, cherished, wanted and emotionally connected. However, to get to that point, it is important for husbands and wives to understand and accept each other’s backgrounds and experiences with sex. It is vital for our relationships that we talk openly and honestly about our views, our fears, and our wants when it comes to sex. These types of conversations can help escalate our sexual intimacy in our marriage to a whole new level.
It is true that God created sex and it is good, but he did not create it solely for us. He also created it as a way to worship Him. Glorifying God through marital sex is a tremendous blessing! It is when we are in the most intimate of moments, both spiritually and physically, that we are reminded of God’s plan and His blessings on us. It is important that we view sex as a form of worship to God that only the two of us enter into together. Amazing things can happen when we invite God into our marriage and bedroom. Not only do we see His vision and His will, but we also feel His presence and His blessing on our union. God gave us this gift of sex. Now is the time to unwrap it and enjoy it.